"Being a good dad starts with presence not presents"
So, you just found out you're going to be a dad. Your partner is going to be carrying around a baby for 9 months and you are think 'so what do I do now'. Well here are 10 things you can do in the next nine months that will pay dividends once your little bundle of joy arrives.
1. Get On Diaper Duty
I'm not talking about practicing changing diaper (you will get more than enough of that). When we found out that we were having Lucy I tried to think of things that would be really annoying when you at suffering from lack of sleep, and running out of diapers was one. So I crunched the numbers and we pre-bought a load on diapers. Every week we went shopping we would buy a box of diapers or a box of wipes. By the time Lucy came around we had stocked up enough to last almost 6 month. Which was just one less thing to worry about. This is what I would suggest going for if you are going to stock up. We stuck to Huggies and have tried a few other brands since then but have always gone back.
1 x Newborn (35 Pack)
3 x Size 1 (264 Pack)
5 x Size 2 (240 pack )
5 x Size 3 (216 pack)
unlimited amount x wipes
I have worked in the wind industry for close to 8 years and risk management is part of everyday life on the job. Learning how to assess the potential for risk and the likely hood of the event actually happening is something that has become second nature. Being able to weight out the risks and rewards when presented with a new situation is a key aspect of why I have stayed safe. Now, by applying those same risk management techniques I use at work I am giving my kids more choices than ever.
Lucy unscrews the lid on the small container and empties it out. A coin, a pin and a sticker fall out and you would think she had won the lottery. Both girls eagerly looks over each items and decide which one they will take and which item from their 'treasure bag' they will leave.
Learning sign can be tricky, but if you break it down into manageable chunks it's much easier. Here are some easy signs you can practice around the grocery store.
As you know, if you've read my previous post about co sleeping I'm a big fan. However at some point there is going to be that period of time where they are heading into their own bed. We are there right now with our youngest (almost 2) and the same plan we used for Lucy seem to be working again.
A dash of spice here, a mix of ingredients there, and we are whipping up something tasty. Now you may not associate cooking with being adventurous, but that where you could be mistaken. Some of the easiest adventure to have on a weekly basis are with food. I recently read an article that said children that are encouraged to eat more adventurously will, in turn, take that adventure out into their lives. Which for me is a definite parenting win and enough to make me want to get them trying new thing when we cook or when we decided to eat out.
1. Raising Brave Girls, Encouraging Adventure By Caroline Paul
2. Teaching Girls Bravery, Not Perfection by Reshma Saujani
3. Lets Raise Kids To Be Entrepreneurs by Cameron Halt
4. 5 Dangerous Things You Should Let Your Kids Do By Gever Tulley
5. For Parents, Happiness Is A Very High Bar By Jennifer Senior
I recently saw a post by a new dad (1 month in) who was feeling debilitated by the lack of sleep he was getting. It made me think of my first months as a dad and coping with the combination of little sleep and having to function as a dad and a member of society. So I thought it would be good to put down some the the things I used to help push through, and come to terms with that period of sleep deprivation.
1. Be A Team
You don't have to do it alone. If you are offered help don't try to be a hero. Usually the people offering the help have been in the same position as you and know what it feels like. If no one offers then ask for help. Taking help even for an hour can give you chance to rest and regroup. You will be surprise how much better you feel.
'What do you want to impart to your children as they grow up ?'
This was a question I was recently ask. I answered that I hoped to teach my girls to be strong and confident and not to be held back by other's perceptions of limitations. That night and for the few days since I have thought about the question and my answer and if it could be boiled down to one words. Finally last night I realized that the word I was looking for was adventurous. I would like my girls to be adventurous.